Why Its So Hard For Me To Fall In Love with My Fellow Millenials

So I have just found out that a person who was reaching young adulthood around the year 2000 is called a millenial. I think the term comes from Millenium. Anyway so I am a Millenial and if that is right then I am guessing I should date a millenial, I am just guessing by the way maybe am fit for a centurion hehehe, My problem is I cannot seem to find a serious millenial who is either single and smart, or single smart and beautiful or hardworking single and smart. Dont get me wrong they are not all taken, its just that none of them even have atleast two of the simple qualities mentioned above. 

I know evertyone is gonna jump at me here and say but who are you to judge and what qualities do you have blah blah blah, but wait a minute I am just me and what I see when I look in the mirror tells me something about what I am looking for in a woman. I have only dated three women seriously in my very short millenial life, One was a Finance student, a law student and a journalism student. The most attractive thing about these three ladies was the fact that they were somehow almost proving to be smarter than me, were very confident and knew very well how to take care of themselves. 

I am attracted by a woman that can challenge my thoughts, that is not intimidated by the male ego. 

My last realtionship left me with a bitter taste in the mouth, I had just started believing I had found the right one when it all came crumbling. So for a year and a half now I ammersed myself in making money, if you came to me about anything else I woiuld never lend you an ear. I made it and spent it with my new found love of the finer things in life.

I lived for the blankets and wines, the bowtie events and the Sauti Sol concerts, and offcourse learning Salsa and Kizomba.


But all that was great until I had done itr all but there was no one to seriously remember sharing it with. Anyway so I decided to look for someone to start sharing these momments with and my oh my did I find it hard. I think if you detach yourself from a group you nolonger subsribe to their thought process. Because I found myself attracted to people way older than my fellow millenials, 


Maturity is just so attractive and to be completely honest most millenials are forever young so maturity has to be put on hold until they are above thirty.

In college that was a fete because you knew you could almost have anyone, party animals....

Dating Millenials has been crazy, most have no goals, 

some live in a bubble and others are just YOLOing through life making it so hard to get someone to talk about their lifes goals and issues to do with growing yourselves.

Anyway enough of me ranting, whether I like it or not I still have to get me a millenial and if I did not already mention it I have met some sexy, smart and sassy millenials that give me hope, hope in one day finding someone that I will run home to not because I wanna you know what..... but because it feels fresh and challenging to be around them. 2015 I think we oughtta find us a hot millenial and hopefully get married four years later :)

IF I WERE PRESIDENT

'If I were the President'

If I were the President I would act like a father and think like a mother when I hear thugs are stripping our daughters, raping our sisters and killing our dear mothers,

If I were the President I would act like a commander in Chief, and move like a navy seal when I Hear that innocent teachers, policemen and children are being slaughtered within our borders,

If I were the president I would stop talking and start walking with the truth as my shield and the constitution as my armour when it comes to corruption, bad leadership and ethnic hatred,

If I were the president I would tell my PR team to stop talking about me and start talking about the many issues affecting the people i lead and how to go about solving them,

If I were the president I would visit the home of all those that died in Kapedo, mourn with those that died in Mpeketoni and Mandera instead of visiting Mapambano (May He rest In Peace) to gain political mileage.

If I were the president I would ensure that as we light up Kibera the kids in there have sustainable education that will see them appreciate the values in those resources and not give them toys to play with come 2017

If I were the president I would give our children laptops yes, but ensure that they are in fact alive to use them by the time they get to school instead of letting al shabaab kill all their teachers,

If I were president Which I will never be I would listen to the souls of the many kenyan voters that voted for me and have died out of negligence and lack of intelligence and ensure their children do not suffer the same fate,

If I were President I would be reading this post and taking advise from very ordinary young Kenyan who believes that Security is a matter of National and international concern,

Since I am not the president I will hope that his digital self will one day read this post and know what runs through my mind.

But  remember all this begun with if I were president, so #ACT  President Uhuru Kenyatta  OR GO watch some Scandal maybe #Fitz can give you ideas on how important a single life is. #TUMECHOKA #NIMECHOKA #KENYANSCANTCONTINUE2DIE

Love is not Blind, Love is Light.

Lately  I have had a look at myself in the mirror close to a million times. Every day when I wake up in the morning as I head to the bathroom I take a glance at this pretty face and just before I head to bed the same ritual applies. They say you are what you see, some argue that you are what you believe you are, I believe that requires a whole lot of faith. I am sitting here writing this post listening to a beautiful song by Justin Timberlake that talks about mirrors in a very interesting way. As a young man (I don't know why I still call myself that anymore) I often find myself in situations that call for self reflection. In one year I have walked the streets in Makina Kibera in my usual ritual of that reflective trip that always brings me back to earth whenever I tend to complain or whine about how crazy my life is to and moved on to walk the streets of Chicago Illinois studying at one of the worlds most prestigious schools for six weeks, that was just before heading out to Washington DC to meet the president of the free world and hug his lovely wife Michelle.

Don't get me wrong the trip has been great, in fact it was better that that high Jesse from Breaking Bad got from that Meth they cooked with Heisenberg. I have never felt such a rush in my life, the 18 hour flight across the Atlantic, and Chicago in the summer hehe believe me it was sweet. Coming back home to all the accolades and my school putting me on the papers and all was beyond this world but above all the lessons I got from interacting with my peers as well as the professors at NYU was amazing!

Throughout this year, the people I have met, the lessons I have learnt and the milestones I have achieved I only realised one thing. This life is like a book. Written years ago by a very witty and quintessential author. Believe me my history was not that great, I was  a smart but vey troubled child. I had issues from here to Milwaukee! That coupled with the fact that I lost my left eye at 12 made me a venom in my teens. 

My early years in college bore no fruit, infact my lecturers would tell you they never knew me. They found out about me in my second year of school.

Right now I co-own one of Kenya's fastest rising Media production outlets providing opportunities for gifted young people in the industry to express themselves and allowing for growth in the industry. I had never in my wildest dreams thought I would venture into business. I knew one thing though as a child. I would be somewhere in the media industry and at some point in my life I would be a trained lawyer. 

Maybe not practice but definitely learn law and use it to better my business and as my sister Lupita once said, 'My dreams are very valid' after all who knows what my book has at the back end of the pages.

Growing up I have met some amazing women, I have always been told I am a charmer, for long I thought it was a bad thing because my charming self could not get the girls I wanted. I was, from high school very picky about who I would date, I guess I never used my mirror much because hey, who says you can pick Diana and expect her not to be picky when checking you out? I never thought of that. My big brother though, this guy has always been my role model, in all things, like how he treats his wife ladies you would wanna steal him from her I promise. Anyway so after a steamy high school romance with Cynthia, not her real name I moved on to the real world and met Mariana, Beautiful woman, passionate and sexy as hell. I the charmer got charmed like that witchy series that used to run on KTN, anyway so Olosky fell in love and was in love for two years. Sadly we ended it and run away to the city of champions. That was some genuine shit. Anyway fast forward, I met someone else but it was not the same so I shut that side down. I only partied had friends but loathed commitment. Its been two years now and just this year on realising that I had lived in this world for 25 years i decided to give it a go. Believe me its been hard. Thats when I realised the need to go back to my mirror and asses the situation. Yes Justin sings about mirrors in that beautiful song I was talking about.  For you to find your mirror you must take glance and see what you see on the other side. 

I woke up and realised that my mirror reflects a very hardworking side, bright with ideas and full of life. As I sit and watch this video one thing is clear to me. Reflection needs light and if the person you are looking for doesn't have that light, you will never see them. And this is where I dispute the notion that love is blind. I believe love is light. That's why you fall in love with your mirror. Right now I can all but almost say I see a light at the end of the tunnel. In this tunnel I have met some amazing women . I have interacted with smart , talented, innovative and passionate women since the beginning of the year, I am walking towards the light and I believe the face I will see at the end of the tunnel will be my mirror, my reflection, in everything I do and I know all I see is her. 

Young and Visionary

Entrepreneur | Pan-Africanist | clean water activist | Student | Dreamer

I have read a lot about Young entrepreneurs in different field, I have met and engaged many of them in different platforms. I myself believe I am an entrepreneur in fact I live to be an entrepreneur. But what is entrepreneurship? A friend of mine once said entrepreneurship is like a chronic disease those who have it will never get healed. Its like motherhood, it posses one and makes them a parent to ideas. all these are very philosophical and very true explanations as to what entrepreneurship is to different people. I have come to discover that entrepreneurship to me is very simple. Providing opportunities to those who have the ability but cannot do it for themselves.

As a young man in college I can say I was a bit lost, joining USIU-A with the aim of graduating with a bachelors degree in journalism. In high school I was great at languages, I was average in maths and for some strange reason loved chemistry. I moved from almost being expelled to being recognised in various positions in high school including  school captain. Leadership has always been a part of my life. One very interesting thing about entrepreneurship though is that we never really realize we had the bug early enough. I always found ways to make money even as early as primary school. I always had the language for trade. In High school, I often played the merchant at times. It all started with writing love letters on behalf of the Form Fours at Gladphil High School for a loaf of bread or some twenty shillings. The business grew into not just writing and the packaging of these letters but i also did the artwork on the cover winning many hearts for my elder brothers not knowing I was in business.

As I got older I ventured into other avenues as the lower classes now looked upto to me, I was their captain, the best debater in the school and looked the part too. I began bringing in merchandise such as the shoes I liked to basketball jerseys and even books. To cut the long story short you always know who you are and if you don't the people around you will show you.

As I read about Sangu Delle and his efforts to build a better Africa I was intrigued, captivated, informed, inspired and to some extent surprised. Here is a young man two years older than myself, who has done it all. He is 27 years old, three degrees from Harvard and a CEO of his own Non-Profit organization. What does he do right that most young people in Africa don't? look at it this way, he went to a primary school just like I did, he went to a secondary school just like you did and university just like most of us did. Now, I know my very good friend Pauline Muthoni (a Mandela Washington Fellow) might want to slap me for this but this guy simply has one thing that most of us lack. He has immense passion! Passion for whatever he does. His passion was seen all the way as a child when he wrote to the President of Harvard as king to join the institution at the age of five, he even got a response from Neil Rudenstine asking him to keep in touch.

Passion contrary to most peoples beliefs will drive you to achieve great things. A man is liberated when he finds his true passion, for with that he can change the world. I have struggled with finding my true path. I am passionate about film. I am passionate about telling the African story in ways no one has before. I am passionate about empowering the youth and helping them tap into this resource that is passion. The biggest lesson I have learnt from Sangu Delle is that people want jobs, people just really want to be economically empowered. The biggest realization for me however is that we have turned away from using what our people are passionate about and led them to things that they are worried about. We need to be driven by something bigger than us, dreams fuelled by hard work will see us build a bigger, better and free Africa.

Blind Brilliance

In life they say you can only talk about that which you have experienced, seen, done or been apart of. I woke up today and actually for the first time truly felt 25. I have for the past few months lived like a 24 year old. I had promised myself certain things when I get to quarter of a century. Some of which will have to be pushed to when I turn 30 but well. One of them was to learn a totally different culture from the one I am used to and that has been fulfilled by the YALI Washington fellowship.

Anyway I have shared with my fellows for three weeks now and one thing is clear. Young people are doing amazing things on the African continent. I for a very long time thought I was special for running a company at 23 years but meeting all the Northwestern fellows has shown me that I actually am not. If at all am privileged because a few people now know more about what I do but the underlying factor here is that all the 24 fellows have amazing stories.

My next door neighbor at the Foster walker complex Tafadzwa is a brilliant human being. Barely 29 years old, Taffy as we call him lost his sight four I years ago. As I we speak he is not only the founder of Shine on Zimbabwe but also a motivational speaker as well as a very popular radio host back home in Zimbabwe. If ever I had complained about my situation I have just been inspired to always look on the bright side. Not only is he very techno savvy but his way of doing things is mature and very organized.

We have barely spent three weeks together but I very easily regard him as a brother, comrade, fellow and very good friend. His charisma is slowly sweeping away the hearts of many here at northwestern earning him the title of Mr 'president' here among the fellows. His infectious personality has made him a darlings with the staff here with one of the staff members going as far as using him to inspire his little siblings. Being his next door neighbor I have tried to be there for him as much as I can making others think that we have known each other for a life time now. It's hard to make people believe we met barely three weeks ago.

YALI has taught me not just business but a vital life lesson in living with persons with disability. I have grown in patience and I think fate wanted me to grow that side of me. Life gives you a fork instead of a spoon to have soup and in his case he has made it his blessing. I am prepared to eat soup using chopsticks if I have to to change lives. This opportunity is not just my chance to shine as taffy says but an open door to bring in more opportunities to my fellow young people.

My biggest lesson this summer is that what a seeing man can do a blind man can do better. So give them a chance. Taffy is changing the world around him every minute. Visually impaired for four years now his achievements are inconceivable. I am truly humbled at the opportunity to interact and share with such great individuals.

Young African Leadership Initiative

Hey Y'ALI , I know I barely use blogger nowadays but am about to change that and here is the reason why. I am writing this post seated at the lounge in Foster Walker complex at Northwestern University.A year ago had you asked me if I thought I would be sitting here writing of this amazing experience I would have told you to get the hell out and let me be.

I got here about three weeks ago for president Obamas inaugural Washington fellowship or young African leaders. I was selected to participate in the business and entrepreneurship track. Being a creative I never thought for once I would be learning about business models and value propositions. It was for a very long time about the art. The rest were just compliment to what I love doing.

From the sight visits to the case studies and the community service I must I have grown so much as person and as a business owner. I had for a whole year struggled with figuring out a business model that works. A plan that will see my business grow. I a period of three weeks in the beautiful city of Evanston I have more than figured out what our core business is, I have gone one more to writing out my companies business model and knowing the little details that will see us prosper.

Enough with the classroom stuff, Evanston is so beautiful, I know everyone say America is but this is different it's not perfect but it's beautiful. The environment is one I would love to have my daughter and son study in as it provides for a great atmosphere and the community around just adds on the drive to have a beautiful future. The structures are very beautiful and the landscaping is just right.

PURITY

PHOTOGRAPHY BY OLOO PAUL VICTOR

Sometimes photography can take you to worlds beyond planet earth, the eye of the universe as seen through my lens in Korogocho slums.....